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Amour et Florand: Learning from Turning Up The Heat

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Turning up the Heat is one of my very personal favourites among Laura’s books. It holds a very special place in my heart and I would be remiss if I didn’t even write about it.

I’ve been married for three years now and I have to admit, it took (or is still taking) a lot of adjustments. I did alot of things at home, coupled with going to the office for work. I did all those household chores all to make sure my husband gets every little thing he needed. I would rush home at the end of the day because I wanted to make sure he’d have a warm dinner as soon as he arrived from work.

But there came a point when I felt unappreciated, neglected. I love him like crazy, and I know he does the same. I thought true love was about giving your self whole heartedly, holding nothing back.  I felt like I did that and wasn’t getting the same thing. Was it so selfish of me to think that way?

Then I read Turning Up The Heat, about Daniel and Lea, who are sort of  the same situation I was. Lea felt neglected and small under the magnificent glow of Daniel. They  gave everything to each other and are now trying to find themselves in each other. There were two things that struck me the most from that book.

“How could he have given his whole life to her, and she not realize it?”

I began counting the little things he did for me, like picking me up from the station and helping with the house chores and his undying patience with me. He kind of reminded me of Kurt with his patience, quietly waiting for me to get through with whatever mood I was in.  There were so many things he did for me that I didn’t even give a second thought to.  I realized then that sometimes, we tend to blow up the bad things and forget the small things people we love the most do for us. It’s important to take the time to sit down and think about the sacrifices that person has done, no matter how small it seemed at that time.

“. …..You make us think that care of your is inexhaustible. Because it is– almost–is. And nobody can get too much of it, cherie. Nobody is ever going to turn it down. Its up to you to not offer it sometimes, if you need some for yourself.”

It made so much sense to me. So. much. sense. I didn’t have to make every little thing I do for him or about him. I needed to do somethings on my own, for my own. I didn’t have to be so dependent on him and his schedule, that it was okay to be selfish once in a while. So now, we’d have one day of the week where we’d do things on our own.  I would do whatever it is I felt like doing. I didn’t feel so guilty about it anymore. And seeing him at the end of the day at home felt so good. I would feel so refreshed.

There are many many more things I learned from Laura’s book, but these two were my most important points. Her book came at exactly the right time I needed it. It taught me to see the sacrifices my husband also makes for me. It assured me that it’s alright to hold back a little of yourself for the person you love the most. Its okay for both of you to have your own personal space. In fact,  becoming better individuals is one of the most precious gifts couples can give to each other. By saving a little of themselves, couples can compliment each other more, a better union in a relationship.

As my last post for Chachic’s Amour et Florand, I thank you, Laura, for your writing. You will never ever know how much Turning Up The Heat, among all your other books, means to me. I’ve always turned to reading for guidance whenever I felt like no one else can help me and I’m glad I found your books. It  made so much sense to me when I needed it the most. I love you for all the chocolates, the caramels and the macarons in the world, but I will always, always be grateful to you for Turning Up The Heat in my life.

This post is done in celebration of Chachic’s Book Nook’s event, Amour et Florand.

Visit also Chachic’s Book Nook and her Amour et Florand page to read more about what others have written about Laura Florand. To know more about Laura Florand, the books featured in this post and her other works, visit her website, facebook page and goodreads page.

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Author: Lorn (pakwanstripes)

Yogi, book lover, comic book reader, cat moma and diabetic :)

3 thoughts on “Amour et Florand: Learning from Turning Up The Heat

  1. This is a great post! Thanks for sharing how Turning Up the Heat affected the way you see your own marriage. I think it’s really nice that Laura writes about different types of couples – troubled married couples or older couples like parents of the characters.

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    • Yup, exactly! I love authors who don’t limit themselves to stories about a man and a woman meeting for the first time. Stories about marriage, older couples and single parents also deserve a romance story of their own. Do you think she’d write about Aunts Aja and Geneviève? And I think I’d like to hear Grandpa Jack’s story too D

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  2. Pingback: Amour et Florand: A Strong Sense of Place | Chachic's Book Nook

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